Here we discuss the remnant effect of narcissistic abuse, and biblically, through Christ, we learn about terrible habits that have to end today. Specifically, the need to over-explain and say that your sorry when you haven’t committed any error. Additionally, the under world (Ephesians 6:12,) influences these behaviors and uses people to strip you of accountability in attempts to subdue Holy Spirit’s power, attempting to make you look weak in front of the church community.
After all, the appearance of weakness is how the next narcissist finds you to attempt to exploit you. It’s a merry-go-round of a game. Even still, it’s time to stop the madness and speak firmly without explaining yourself; if someone asks you a question or says something to you warranting a response, say your piece and leave off the explanation. After all, did they ask you for a reason? Indeed, over-explaining or excessive apologies can be a sign of lying or the leftover baggage from trauma in the body. Excess wounds lead to insecurity and the compulsion to prove yourself by talking too much, trying to prove your innocence.
Studies show that adults who were abused as children frequently take on this habit because somewhere in their life they were conditioned to be scared and so over-explained themselves out of fear. Likewise, a victim of a psychotic narcissist or multiple narcissists may have called you a liar when you were telling the truth and being honest.
Still, it’s time to stop walking on eggshells to practice being straightforward, but do not be surprised when the people who gaslight you are thrown into a tailspin and accuse you of being a narcissist. After all, people, like a narcissist, are broken as a bag of chips, yet pretending to be something their not. Therefore, feel like the victim when in fact they are the aggressor, and when it comes to healing from the trauma they caused their fear and insecurity increase.
The Bible offers many scriptures that can provide comfort and guidance. One of the best places to start is Psalm 118:6-7 which says, “The Lord is for me; I will not fear; What can man do to me? The Lord is for me among those who help me; Therefore, I shall see my desire on those who hate me.” This scripture reminds us that no matter what happens to you, Jesus is always with you, and He is more significant than anything that may try to hurt you or me.
Another powerful scripture is Romans 8:28 which says, “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” This verse reminds us that even in our darkest times, God is still in control and works everything out for the good and His Glory.
Psalm 46:1-2 is another scripture to consider when going to God for healing from the trauma of narcissism and physical abuse. It says, “God is our refuge and strength, a present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, even though the earth be removed, and though the mountains are carried into the midst of the sea.” This scripture encourages us, you and me, to look to Christ for strength and comfort, even in our most difficult times.
Finally, Isaiah 40:29-31 is a great scripture to meditate on when you have tried everything else worldly and are ready to heal from the trauma of narcissism and evil. After all, the narcissist is the pathological liar. The Bible says, “God gives power to the weak, and to those who have no might, He increases strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall, but those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.” This verse reminds us that even in our weakest moments, and or shame or misery Jesus can and will give us the strength and courage to keep going until the day Jesus redeems the innocent publicly.
Praise God, Eyes On Him. Jesus Christ is our deliver. While the word of God is the healing ointment (Bread) feeding the inner wounds; with healing. The reason scripture says the word gets down to the dividing soul and spirit, the bones and flesh. After all, God’s word is alive dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.
That’s all for now; I hope it helps you.
C. Brejcha ©️