I recently read a Facebook comment about marital relations, the issue with men and women withholding from their spouses, and infidelity.
In short, because I have to drive to Pa shortly, the first issue is why marriage falls apart, sex is often an issue, and a spouse cheats or has a wandering eye.
Apostle Paul speaks of the importance of the marital bed in 1 Corinthians 7:3, 5, “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband… Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent for a time so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
The problem arises when people marry out of biblical order; women are not to search for a husband and live according to Christ and his word and modestly.
A woman is to be a wife to Christ long before marrying a man. It’s not a religious thing, but a born-again relationship birthed out of godly repentance, having zero to do with religion.
Secondly, the scriptures are clear a man leaves his mother and father and finds a wife (Matthew 19:5), and they unite.
Example: Boaz found Ruth working in the field, it was Naomi who had a part in aligning Ruth with her future husband, but Ruth was not looking she desired to serve and know Naomi’s God.
Marriage is not biblical anymore; people date, sleep around and think they are in love because of the soul ties they made and end up marrying, and it’s all unevenly carried out from there.
A man or a woman will become repulsed by sex and their spouse after some time if they are challenged in their own identity and out of line with Christ.
It’s far more complex than having sex or not; it’s a Spiritual issue that sprouts from a root of rebellion.
James 1:14-16 (AMP)
But each one is tempted when he is dragged away, enticed, and baited [to sin] by his own [Worldly] desire (lust, passion). Then when the illicit desire has been conceived, it gives birth to sin; when corruption has run its course, it gives birth to death.
Death is not only the closing of human life; it is the demise, loss, destruction, collapse, or ruin of any one thing, not alive and fully functioning in Christ.
There is nothing worse than waking up next to someone you realize that you are not Spiritually fulfilled by or in love with; it’s impossible to be in love with a man or woman in God’s union without being in love with Jesus Christ.
It’s not to say that people don’t make it work but I rather be alone than be with anyone who is not sold out For Jesus Christ. A man or woman can never love you like Jesus if they don’t know God and rely On religion. At the same time, it’s impossible to be fulfilled in any other way by someone spiritually empty.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
A woman searching for a husband is not a woman ready for marriage because godly women will not be looking to complete themselves with a man but fully content with Christ unto he finds her.
I have been on both ends of that scale; I lived ungodlily and allowed people to steal a good portion of my life out of pain, but today, I am a godly woman, and I chose Jesus Christ over brokenness and a man, not worthy To love me in their sin or mine. You, too, are worthy of being appropriately loved in heart and Christ, do not settle for less than Jesus. He is the foundation of all successful and godly unions.
1 Peter 3:15-16 NIV, “But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.
C. Brejcha ©️