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Protect Your Heart (Narcissists)

Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it

Protect is to guard, shield, and keep safe. How do we protect our hearts when we allow others to cause them to pain continuously? Why is it essential to protect the most important muscle in our bodies? Because if not, our hearts begin to skip a beat.

At the same time, toxins travel throughout and end up making us heartsick, which in the end, leads to sin. Good heart health is essential in the lives of a Follower of Christ. How can we be living in the likeness and image of God with a dead-beat ticker?

The answer is we can’t.

In Psalm 51:10, we read the plea to God for a clean heart: “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.

Matthew 15:17-20
“Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and out of the body? 18 But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, which defiles them. 19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. 20 These are what defile a person, but eating with unwashed hands does not defile them.”

Like our human anatomy, our hearts pump; it pushes the blood throughout the organs, tissues, and cells of our body. Thus our body is filled with all that flows throughout. The same principle applies Spiritually, so just as our blood delivers oxygen and nutrients to every cell and removes carbon dioxide and waste, the Word of God does this in our bodies.

Hebrews 4:12
For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

If we fill our vessels with things not holy and decent, including abuse from other people, it enters the gates and flows through the body like blood to the heart, which pumps out contaminated blood leaving us in poor spiritual health.

The topic of Holy Conversation lately has been on the Jezebel Spirit and narcissism, the wicked, selfish, covert, and abusive Spirit. This Spirit has many of you questioning yourself if you are a narcissist. I’m here to tell you that that’s what Jezebel does in the narcissist spirit is so manipulative that they will have you thinking that you are the one in error.

For any of you out there experiencing this, ask yourself these questions.

  1. Do I have compassion for the person who is abusing me?
  2. Do I do my best to see the good in the person abusing me?
  3. Does the person who mishandled my love covertly abuse me so that no one else sees them doing it to me?
  4. Do I genuinely forgive the person abusing me and repent if I respond wrongly?

If you answered yes to one or more questions, the problem isn’t you, and no, you are not the narcissist. At the same time, it’s wise to stay self-accountable but be gentle with yourself, as Christ is merciful to you.

A narcissist will befriend you to gain your trust and love, bomb you with kindness, compliments, and even gifts, then gradually, you begin to tell them you’re heart and even troubles, and they will start to use it against you covertly. Then, they will shun you, so you suffer from self-doubt and use the most significant trauma in your life to try and hurt you.

To shun is to avoid, ignore, avoid or stay clear of, so I have a word of wisdom and advice.

My motto.

If you shun me, don’t be surprised when I exit the building for good after “you” shut the door on me. It’s what I like to call the “boomerang effect,” without hard feelings and void of other thoughts about them. We pray for that person, forgive and give them over to GOD and what they thought they could use to hurt us.

Protect your heart!

You can bet they will talk poorly about you, but that is none of your business because, remember, you sold the building, and it’s no longer your problem.

Psalms 94:1-2
1 The LORD is a God who avenges. O God who avenges, shine forth. 2 Rise up, Judge of the earth; pay back to the proud what they deserve.

1 Corinthians 13:4–8 (ESV) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

Never feel guilty protecting your heart and lovingly standing up for yourself enough to walk away. It’s not selfish and according to Paul in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 there was no love in the person abusing you to begin, therefore protect your love for Christ and others because they are out to steal it.

Sister Christine

C. Brejcha ©️

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