What does God have to say about friendship, and how many friends is enough?
In Ecclesiastes 4:9, the verse describes the benefit of two being better than one because when two trusted friends work together to build a better tomorrow, they have a good return for their labor.
Believe me, Joel and I get it.
Similarly, Ecclesiastes 4:10 states that if either of the two falls down, one can help the other up. As an extra factor, the verse emphasizes that it’s a shame when anyone falls and has no one to help them up.
Through God’s word, we see that friendship is important, but when is too many friends too much, or, in other words, when isn’t one enough?
This topic will undoubtedly lead to a split decision. Some people think the more friends, the merrier, while others, like myself argue that one or two is sufficient.
So, who is right or wrong?
If we want a broader perspective on the topic of companionship, without trying to be right but helpful, God’s word is the place to find it.
Proverbs 18:24 states, “A man of too many friends comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Therefore, investing in a few quality friendships can lead to more meaningful relationships. I’m sure you’ve heard the old saying , “quality better than quantity?”
Look at it this way: would you rather have a garage full of cars that don’t run or one nice, reliable vehicle?
Logically, having one reliable vehicle that runs well is better because it helps you navigate life from place to place. In contrast, sitting in a garage with twelve deadbeat cars can hold you back from moving forward.
In 1 Corinthians 15:33, it says, “Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.”
How many can relate to this throughout life?
Depending on the company you kept, it felt like being stuck in the garage, where you never moved forward and began to be influenced poorly, rather than having one or two eagles to fly with.
Allow me to be the first to say that I have experienced this but never will again. Seriously, if people are not walking a strong, godly path in Christ, why risk it, and for what?
On the other hand, God knows who is best for you, and more than likely, He is showing you.
Are you listening?
Does our Heavenly Father know that too many cooks in the kitchen spoil the meal? A poisonous platter can make many people sick, especially when it comes to serving the Gospel. Therefore, never be discouraged when your circle is small, and don’t be afraid to use discernment when welcoming someone new.
Wisdom is worth more than coins!
That sat the Bible also says that the Father sends us out two by two (Luke 10:1), emphasizing the value of companionship in life.
Furthermore, too many so-called friends can harm your emotional and physical health, as well as your business, ministry, and workplace. Quality and authenticity are always better than quantity or long-time associates whom you may call friends but cannot trust.
I like to compare this situation to debt.
Think about the feelings of heaviness and burden that come with it. When you pay down and eliminate some of that debt—much of which wasn’t even your own—the burden lifts, and you feel lighter.
True wealth is peace, and it’s important to note that this doesn’t mean you should isolate yourself or remain single in your associations. Instead, allow the Lord to choose your friends and be content with one good friend who is trustworthy and loyal. Many may claim to be your friends, but some may end up being more of a burden than a blessing.
Therefore let me close this word out by saying,
Beloved, do not be deceived into believing that we owe loyalty to those who are untrustworthy—individuals who bring more harm than good, regardless of their success. It is essential to invest your time and energy in those who contribute godly value to your life and your surroundings, and likewise, ensure that you are a source of value for them. Embrace the person Jesus has called you to be, and be willing to sever the ties to those dead ends in your life. Just as gristle is an unpleasant distraction on a steak, so too are unworthy relationships that hinder your growth.
And be aware:
2 Timothy 3:1-5 (ESV)
But understand this: In the last days, there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness but denying its power.
Avoid such people.
Jesus loves you immensely, and I love you too. —I pray that every relationship in your life is purified and sanctified by the blood of Jesus Christ.
May the peace of God overtake you, your families, your partnerships, your relationships, and your Holy spiritual affiliations.
I pray that all aspects of your life—including your connections with government, church, family and community—be brought together in unity and in one accord through the blood of Jesus Christ.
I pray for forgiveness, happiness, wholeness, joy, and contentment, even in times of scarcity. —
Remember, when you are blessed and rich within Christ, you are truly wealthy. Share that wealth with others, just as I am doing.
I love you, and God bless us all.
If you feel led, please share this message with someone who may be struggling with partnerships, friendships, or their lack thereof.
Much love and truth,
Sister Christine ❤️
C. Beach ©️
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