Today is a brief encouragement for those who may not understand the challenges they face in life due to the deep-seated burden and pain they carry from a fatherless or parentless upbringing, which includes a parent who was in the home but not present, emotionally and spiritually immature.
An adult who lacks emotional maturity often reflects a hair-trigger temper and the inability to control their emotions, which leads to abusive tendencies that usually result in screaming and yelling at the children rather than listening and nurturing.
In some cases, there is a combination of extreme violence and emotional abandonment, which results in the child being left to self-soothe. This often leads to addictions and risky behavior in adulthood as a way to cope with life since they were never taught how to regulate their emotions.
Without accountability, the parents of these adult children often blame their children for their issues, even though the parents themselves may have a selfish (narcissistic) and self-centered attitude, offering little value to their children. —This dysfunctional behavior is almost always the result of generational curses stemming from religious idolatry within families.
Scripture explains these generational things in Exodus 20:5-6 (KJV), “Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; and showing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.”
Yet millions of families worldwide are unaware of the spiritual dynamics at play. That said, when there is a thief in the room, undetected, those demons will continue to steal from both the parents and the children. The yo-yo effect continues to spiral out of control until God calls one person in the family to break these generational curses. —One person takes on a painful yet noble obligation in agreement and covenant with Christ to show love and forgiveness.
The thief is satan, as addressed in John 10:10 (KJV):
“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I (Jesus) come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly.”
I am thankful that the Lord is using me to glorify Him in my family. However, being without genuine family bonds and love is daunting, often resulting in new pain. Not to mention, it can be challenging because after we help, they turn on us.
How many of you can relate?
If you were a child growing up with abuse and without love, nurturing, and validation from your fathers or even mothers, Jesus understands that you may be that adult trapped in your childhood abandonment and trauma, struggling to envision the possibility of soaring in Christ or being successful.
And the fact may be that the abusers were also abused and became who they are because of the abuse they endured. —Remember, it’s generational.
When we realize this, it becomes easier, though not easy, to find compassion for the one abusing and abandoning because they may not be able to control themselves.
They may struggle within themselves, trying to understand how to love and build healthy relationships. However, instead of taking responsibility and facing their emotions to heal with the help of Christ, they often choose to play the victim and continue to mistreat those who are trying to help them. I can assure you that it’s devastating for those of us who are trying to break the cycle of spiritual dysfunction.
This leads us to experience righteous indignation, anger at injustice, a new misplaced sadness, and feelings of inferiority.
But the Bible says…To guard your heart, because everything flows from it, means that if help is not welcomed, or if you begin to be taken advantage of or verbally and emotionally abused, you must walk away to protect yourself.
Leaving the Gospel seeds planted in the lives of your loved ones to germinate by Christ. We are NOT called to save anyone.
According to James 1:20-21, “For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God” (KJV).
This is particularly significant for those who have suffered the wrath of abusive parents, whether it be verbal, mental, emotional, physical, or sexual.
As detailed earlier a child who learns through spiritual torment may grow into an unregulated adult with emotional scars and spiritual and physical sickness.
As it says in Proverbs 4:23, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (KJV).
Remember: As adults, but still emotionally abandoned children we may pursue education, secure employment, and establish families. But what kind of true righteousness can be achieved without the healing power of Christ? —Jesus is the way!
As Isaiah said:
“But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him, and with his stripes, we are healed” (Isaiah 53:5, KJV).
Instead of treading dirt and surviving the struggles and burdens of a life short of true peace. Seek Jesus with all your heart for there is healing and deliverance through Jesus Christ, a supernatural transformation from God that heals us from within.
Jesus helps us to renew our strength and grow spiritually, similar to how Rogaine helps to regrow hair. This process requires consistent dedication to studying Jesus’ teachings, praying, fasting, and studying the word of God. —
It also requires having faith in the unseen, much like how we can’t see oxygen but rely on it for life.
Isaiah also said:
“They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint” (Isaiah 40:31, KJV).
Pay close attention to those who have crawled to survive but now soar high in Christ. We are a testimony to Christ’s power over the earth.
Are you next?
How will you know unless you surrender your entire life to Jesus?
Are you willing to lay it all down to be healed and stop settling for lifeless churches, relying on therapy and self-help books, shopping, hoarding and causing pain others and yourself when you can experience the power of Jesus Christ for those who believe?
Gospel truth:
“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28, KJV).
Take a moment to reflect and decide to allow Jesus Christ to do for you what you cannot do for yourself.
In closing:
Psalm 68:5 (KJV): “A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.”
God Bless you!
Much love, beautiful soul,
Sister Christine ❤️
C. Beach ©️