Often, toxic people are consumed by strife and contempt. When strife takes root in someone’s heart, chaos tends to follow. It’s comparable to a ticking time bomb, ready to explode at any moment. Causing complete disorder.
These type of individuals are usually unable to mend themselves, and without the presence of Jesus Christ, there may be limited options other than understanding the situation and safeguarding yourself.
It is safe to assume that many of us have encountered toxic people, and if we are honest with ourselves, some may even acknowledge having been toxic in the past. However, through the love and grace of God, healing is possible.
Equally important, is understanding strife, which is synonymous with anger and bitterness, and can oftentimes be prevalent in dysfunctional families. I speak from experience. When a parent is filled with injury, contempt is also present which often influences the children in a similar way.
Moreover, as the Bible teaches us, our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against dark forces in the world (Ephesians 6:12). Therefore, spiritual influences can spread from one person to another. In other words, when someone carries strife in their heart due to spiritual torment, they may inadvertently project that spiritual torment onto others.
It is crucial to recognize these dynamics within families and the impact they can have on your future relationships. It is impossible to build anything long-standing or healthy when living with an unhealthy heart, which like a volcano can erupt for any reason. Therefore, healing and deliverance begin with establishing a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
I encourage everyone to recognize these dynamics within their families for what they are and to understand the impact these behaviors can have on your future relationships. It is impossible to build anything long-standing or healthy with an unhealthy heart.
One of the reasons behind the high divorce rate is the inability to regulate feelings and emotions, often stemming from a history of toxicity. Consequently, we often witness the prevalence of sexual promiscuity leading to mismatched marriages that end in turmoil, and unfortunately, it is the children who suffer the most.
The truth is, the devil would love nothing more than for me to stay silent while strife continues to spread, unbeknownst to many who secretly endure its effects. But I cannot remain silent. Having personally experienced this toxicity and witnessed the healing found through Jesus Christ, I am here to speak on it.
Unfortunately, millions around the world carry wounds in their hearts due to the toxic dynamics passed down through generations in their families, and is time to protect your heart.
As the Bible tells us in Proverbs 4:23, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
That said, the first step is acknowledging that toxic people have the ability to poison whatever they touch, and they will! Therefore, it is crucial to distance yourself from them. It can be difficult and painful, especially when you love someone who is dangerous. However, I have learned from my own journey with Jesus Christ that there is nothing more important than my own peace.
Today, my greatest hope is for those who are still suffering from the torment of toxic people to recognize that their peace matters more than their relationships with abusers.
As the Bible teaches us in 2 Corinthians 6:17, “Therefore, come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.”
Jesus desires that no one perish, it’s true, but we don’t have the power to change other people. However, we do have the power to separate ourselves from toxic influences and focus on maintaining a clean and healthy heart and environment.
Healing begins with Jesus Christ, and it takes courage that you may not feel you have right now. But taking small steps is how we learn to walk through Jesus Christ, who strengthens us and teaches us to love ourselves and walk away from harmful things. Having said that, we often become our own greatest hurdle, and in such moments, it is important to seek comfort in Jesus and not worry about those who show no concern for us. Now is the time to establish and maintain healthy boundaries to safeguard yourself.
I must add that when speaking on the topic of strife, I know a thing or two, and I know that when when inner conflicts arise we begin to die inside instead of living. That is why I cannot emphasize enough that through the sacrifice made by Jesus Christ to pay the debts for our sins. Repentance is available to us, and so is healing and deliverance in the name of Jesus.
Now, before I go, let us pray together.
Lord, in the name of Jesus, I humbly come before you and ask for the strength to face my demons, to lay down my life at the throne of the cross, and repent for my sins. I also pray for those who have harmed me. Instead of harboring resentment, please give me the strength to walk away from toxic individuals in my life. With the love in my heart, I ask that you draw them to you so that they too may find healing.
Father, I ask for your protection from the schemes of the devil. Show me who I am and grant me a new life. I pray for everyone involved, whether they are the abusers or the victims, that your mercy and grace pour out over each one individually. May no one else have to suffer, and may healing be found in the name of Jesus.
Amen.
As Romans 12:18 reminds us, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
I hope that this message encourages you to strive for peace in your own hearts and seek to have a healthy relationship with your Savior. Additionally, may you learn to maintain healthy relationships in your future.
As Colossians 3:15 reminds us, “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.”
New life in Christ awaits you. You’re going to be OK. ❤️
Much love,
Sister Christine
C. Beach ©️