A genuine apology is like a River in a desert, a road in the jungle, or a hug when no one is close at hand. To hear the words, I am sorry, and know that someone means it is nourishing to the soul.
Apologizing can help to defuse difficult situations, and it can also be a sign of strength and humility when done in the right way.
Apologizing can help to create a more positive environment, and it can help to bring people closer together.
Luke 17:3-4 ESV
Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.”
A genuine apology doesn’t always mend bridges, but it is essential to the heart of the people we have harmed or who hurt us in return, and vice versa.
Sometimes we go a lifetime without ever seeing the genuine heartfelt love of the people we love, and even when we do our best, it still isn’t good enough. At the same time, it shouldn’t stop us from admitting our misdeeds and making amends when an apology is due.
Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.
A godly life leads to healthier behavior and a clearer perspective on how harmful words and behavior affect the lives of people closest to us but ultimately far away.
Ephesians 4:32 ESV
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, and forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
Too often, a worldly mindset is to be the bigger person, but the fact, it’s not about size or who is better than the other; it’s about living a healthy-hearted life in Christ, and for me, I never apologize unless I mean it, I mean what I say.
Matthew 5:37 NKJV
But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.
Sometimes we hear that forgiving is for us and not them, but I believe it’s for everyone, even if the opposite party doesn’t take heed. Still, a genuine apology is much the same; a heartfelt apology is for the people we harmed, yet we reap the benefits of living healthier and placing love before bitterness.
At the same time, Toxic people are spiritually unhealthy, therefore, incapable of apologizing because they are self-consumed and contain a selfish spirit, a poor disposition, and cannot admit wrongdoing. It’s like expecting poison not to be poisonous just because you like the look or smell; it’s unreasonable to believe the poison won’t kill you too, if you drink it.
Wisdom teaches us the difference, and there is a way to live a healthy life even after being poisoned by unhealthy people. It’s through the healing oil poured over us by Jesus Christ, which is regenerative.
Behold, I will bring to it health and healing, and I will heal them and reveal to them an abundance of prosperity and security.
A person who has been with Jesus will come out the other end entirely transformed and eager to make right the wrongs of their guilt in their previous life. I love divine appointments even when I know there is something on my part that needs to be said, whether it’s received or not.
Regenerative means to regrow and be restored and renewed, especially after being lost, damaged, or broken.
Therefore through Jesus Christ, spiritually and emotionally healthy people don’t do things for something in return. Instead, give without expecting, and that way, we don’t create new hard feelings if it doesn’t happen and a good healthy dose of appreciation if it does. It’s essential to have Holy Spirit discernment.
I talk a lot about Christ’s discernment and healing in my new book, “Pauper To Prophet,” and when released will help a significant number of people who suffer.
Discernment is the ability to piece through human emotions, circumstances, and perceptions to see the truth with spiritual eyes, and not the baggage our sin, and hurt, relying on the unjust judgment of ourselves, others, and affairs.
Genuine insight begins through our courtship with Jesus Christ; the Chief Cornerstone and Holy Spirit make the way to see straight. Love comes before anything else, and the love we see today as acceptable does not reflect Christ’s love.
But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Highest; for He himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men.
To lend isn’t always about money or material things but lending a hand or heart, compassion, and goodwill, regardless of what mean-Spirited people do or say, even when they are too selfish to admit that you are a good person and accuse your love as a forgery.
Remember, just because you changed through Jesus Christ, multiple people are still living the same, which leaves them incapable of being happy for your change of character; they may even feel slighted, jealous, and therefore insecurity leads to false witnessing and backbiting.
“A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will not escape.”
Nonetheless, keep in mind holiness, and keep going for Christ, and apologize when you need to, and walk away from toxic situations when you need to. And always remember, you only need to apologize once, anything more becomes people-pleasing, and God’s people don’t chase anyone for acceptance.
That toxic behavior is learned, and through Jesus Christ, God’s people have learned to unlearn it.
C. Brejcha ©️